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Architecture and women’s ministry. Not usually two words you’d think to put together. But I’ve discovered a common theme.





As a residential designer of custom floor plans for my clients over the last thirty-one years, I’ve realized even though most people want to build the house of their dreams, their deepest desire is to have the home of their dreams. They, as most of us, want home to elicit feelings of comfort, familiarity and love; a place to get away from the worries of life and find rest. Where walking through the door brings a deep sigh of relief from the demands of the outside world.

But I can’t include that in any plan I draw. The only way to make a house a true home that provides the love and security necessary for creating a space of respite is to intentionally build a strong, godly home.  It won’t just happen; we must work at it.

Our culture says living in a beautiful house will create the home we long for, and we take the bait, pulling at it until our homes start to unravel at the seams. We believe the lies and become frustrated wives and mothers as our home becomes a place of tension and chaos rather than of love, structure and peace, thus creating a cycle of guilt and stress.

As women, we must understand that we have the primary responsibility of nurturing the home. The only possible way to successfully create a haven for our families is to give it to God daily. Every. Single. Day. Otherwise we’ll drift into whatever current happens to flow by and wonder why our families are falling apart.

There are two verses that stand out to me as I think about our role as women in the home.

The wise woman builds her house,

but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down. ~ Proverbs 14:1

 By wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is established;

through knowledge its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures. ~ Proverbs 24:3-4

God has given us a beautiful plan for our families and us. He wants us to succeed and be happy in our marriages. He wants our children to grow into strong people of faith and integrity. He wants our homes to be our dream homes, a place of respite and joy for all who enter. And He’s given us a blueprint to do just that.

But Satan has a plan for our homes as well—complete and utter destruction. When we don’t follow God’s plan, we’re vulnerable to Satan’s attack. Why is he intent on destroying our families? Because he knows that family, especially the God-fearing family, is the foundation of a healthy society.

My hope is that, through this blog, you’ll be inspired to stand firm in your faith and encouraged to build the beautiful spiritual home God desires for you and your family. Let’s journey together as we learn how to apply these verses to our everyday lives and build strong homes for our families. He doesn’t call us to be perfect, but He does call us to be faithful. Our families are counting on us.