Finding Joy Again After Trauma with Kim Haar

Have you or someone close to you experienced trauma? Most of us have at one point in our lives to various degrees. Kim Haar had an extreme trauma when her usually calm ex-husband broke into her home one night, beat her for three-and-a-half hours, shot holes in her walls, kidnapped her and took her to her boyfriend’s house where he shot him ten times. This horrific story plays out like something from a movie, but unfortunately Kim knows all too well how real it was. But thankfully she’s still alive to share her story and give others hope that there is healing on the other side. Kim is a licensed professional counselor and marriage and family therapist who knows how to lead people to victory over their past trauma rather than living life as a victim. her testimony is a living example that demonstrates what the enemy meant for evil, God redeemed for good.

Quotes by Kim

“I needed somebody to come beside me and talk about healthy boundaries.”

I was not a perfect wife, but I was a faithful wife.”

“I am not a proponent of divorce… I don’t think divorce is ever a good thing, but I think sometimes it’s the right thing.”

“God is not asking us to be victims.”

“The enemy told me I was disqualified… I was defective. God couldn’t use me [after I was divorced].”

“Lord, I want to trust You. I’m scared to trust You. Help me to trust You. I choose to trust You.”

“I also had to choose not to be a victim.”

“In that moment Naomi made a decision. I will be bitter. Do not let this make you bitter.”

“There’s warfare in worship.”

“We’re afraid if we forgive, somebody else is going to get away with something they did.”

“With grieving and trauma and tragedy there’s no timetable… We just want to make sure we’re making progress. We don’t want to get stuck.”

“Faith and fear cannot co-exist.”

Scriptures and Resources

Commit your way to the Lord; trust in Him and He will do this. – Psalm 37:5

The Lord your God is with you, He is mighty to save. He will take great delight in you, He will quiet you with His love, He will rejoice over you with singing. – Zephania 3:17

You can find out more about Kim at her website

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