Letting Go of Bitterness After an Affair Ended Her Marriage with Kirby King

In today’s episode Kirby King shares the difficult story of finding out about her husband’s six-month long affair when she’d been married 34 years. Kirby decided to forgive him and hold onto her marriage, but after he kept going back to his mistress time and again she knew she could no longer be the peace keeper. Even though Kirby did everything she could to make her marriage work, it didn’t turn out the way she wanted. But she shares how God is writing a new story for her and how she was able to let go of the bitterness toward her ex-husband.

She also talks about her third child being born with Down Syndrome and her struggle coming to grips with that and how her now 29 year-old Down Syndrome son is about to be married. Such an exciting story! Kirby is an optimist and her passion in life is to teach people how to run to Jesus. You will walk away from this conversation encouraged in whatever situation you may be facing today. If your marriage is starting to fall apart after an affair, you may click here to read more about how couples therapy can help.

Highlights and Quotes From Kirby

“We often wait ’til we hit that crossroads, we wait ’til we hit that crisis to just say, ‘This is not working, we need to get help.'”

“When you say you’re sorry, sorry mean you don’t repeat it, or you’re not sorry at all.”

“Lord, do not waste this pain that you’ve allowed.”

“Leave no stone unturned. You do everything you can to work through this. You do counseling. You do everything you can so at the end of it, you can look back with no regrets.”

“God is a God of clarity and when we ask and beg, ‘Lord, what do you want me to do?’, He’s gonna tell you what to do.”

“Intimacy with God is where we find strength.”

“God loves marriage, but God loves His children more than He does the institution of marriage.” – Gary Thomas

Resources and Scriptures

Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you saying, “This is the way; walk in it.” – Isaiah 30:21

Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. – Matthew 5:3

When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze. – Isaiah 43:2

Hope Restored Conference by Focus on the Family

When God Doesn’t Fix It by Laura Story

Billy Graham Training Center at The Cove

Miracle Hill Renewal Center for Women Drug and Alcohol Addiction

Check out Kirby’s website, Hope For Hard Places, and her books, Walking Through Fire Without Getting Burned and Abiding in Christ: What Is It Anyway?

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